I got the following voicemail on my phone today:
"It's your mother. I am calling to see if you forgot your father's birthday yesterday. Since I can never get you on the phone I am leaving you yet another message. Goodbye."
WTF???
First of all, leaving a message like that is NOT going to make me rush to call you back. In the span of a few sentences she managed to insinuate I am an ungrateful daughter and that I purposefully ignore her messages. For the record, she always calls at the most inopportune times like when I am on the air at work, but I always call her right back. Always. She has never said anything like this to me before. And to insinuate that I most definitely forgot about my father infuriates me. I did call him. He didn't answer his phone so I left a message. When I didn't hear back I called the next day and talked to him. Turns out he was working until midnight and in an area with bad cell service. He actually apologized to ME for not being able to get back to me.
The thing that upsets me the most is the prim "Goodbye." My mother always says "Love you, talk to you soon," or something. That one statement alone tells more about her temperment than anything.
And yet I pause about calling her back, for the first time ever. One, because I am really hurt by this message and two because I don't have the energy to get into a fight with her. And this call seems to me she is trying to pick one.
Wednesday, January 6, 2010
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3 comments:
Yeah... I wouldn't call her back right now. It does sound like she's picking a fight, in a way. If you talk to anyone, make it your Dad. Not to talk behind her back, per se, but to see if he drops any hints or mentions her in some way that will give you a clue as to how to proceed from here.
Sorry you have to deal with this, on top of everything else. It blows. But it really *will* get better soon!
My mom pulls that passive-aggressive shit all the time. Via phone AND by email. I just don't answer or reply. You made a great effort to talk to your dad and you DID talk to him. It's none of her effing business, since she obviously hasn't bothered to check with your dad on the matter. He can fill her in if she's so screwed up that she hasn't even talked to HIM about it. You don't have to answer to her.
I really hope you haven't called her back! If nothing else call your dad and tell him that at this time you've decided to take a break from talking to her because of how she has been acting. I'm sure he will understand. We can talk about it more when we talk later today.
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